"I wish I would have ______."

"Can you imagine if I would have ______! Things would be so much different for me!"

I know this is a question we often say. In fact I bet that we "say" it all the time, more than we even would care to acknowledge. It's not just what you speak, but it's in your actions as well and of course action speaks louder than words. When ever you say something like "That's just not for me" or "I couldn't do that, it's not my personality" or "I can't do those things", essentially you are stating that question . . . only it's a statement. Catch it, if you say things like that are, you not telling yourself that you cannot do that? Did somebody else tell you that you couldn't do that? Either way, decide not to listen to whoever it is that is telling you that you can't do that. You are going to have to be prepared to piss off somebody every now and again because you didn't take there advice. Chances are that it's you that you'll be pissing off so get over it and go do it. I challenge you to ask that question of yourself again. This time think about your answer and from where it originates. It probably has some big roots in fear. Minimize and move past that fear and get to the answer and make it real.